Mom means the world to you, but sometimes it can be difficult to demonstrate that. Saying something sweet goes a long way, even if it is a step outside your comfort zone. There's something in it for you, too -- Psychology Today reports that compliments nurture positivity within the giver as well as the receiver, making communication flow easily between the two. Take a deep breath, smile and show some love to the number-one lady in your life.
1. Notice Her
Take note of something that is different about your mom, such as a hair style or a new dress. A compliment can be as simple as commenting on her smile, her singing voice or the bounce in her step. The reward center of the brain processes receiving an honest compliment the same way as receiving cash, according to a 2008 study in the journal Neuron. Use that joy as your motivation. Something specific will mean more than a generic comment, but whatever you come up with, make sure you are saying it from the heart. Mom will notice if you are bluffing.
2. Arrange Bonding Time
Schedule a time when it is just you and her. It could be having coffee, baking cookies or going for a walk. As authors Emma Sargent and Tim Fearon point out in their book "How You Can Talk to Anyone in Every Situation," compliments in front of a crowd can be embarrassing to some people. If you give the compliment when it is just the two of you, it will be more honest, intimate and special.
3. Be Honest and Affectionate
Smile and make eye contact when you give mom your compliment. Looking her in the eye will not only reveal honesty and emotion, but also confidence in what you are saying. Give her a peck on the cheek and a warm hug after your kind words. She may blush and laugh it off, but her heart will swell at your physical affection.
4. Flatter Her Often
Show your mom that this act of flattery is not a one-time event. Paying sincere attention to your mother will show how much you love and appreciate her. Keep in mind that your compliments do not always have to be verbal. They can come in the form of a bouquet of flowers, a card, a spa gift certificate or a dinner that you cook while she relaxes.
- Psychology Today: The Art of the Compliment
- Neuron: Processing of Social and Monetary Rewards in the Human Striatum
- How You Can Talk to Anyone in Every Situation; Emma Sargent, Tim Fearon
- The Art of the Compliment: Using Kind Words with Grace and Style; Christie Matheson
- Life Coaches Blog: How To Give a Good Compliment
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