American culture has a soft spot for the true blue, all-American country boy. Although you want to avoid stereotypes, there are differences between rural areas and cities when it comes to dating. Patricia Warren, who runs the Country Bureau in Derbyshire, England, says the small size of communities and long hours of work on farms can prohibit men and women from meeting new people. This can be good news for you if you're dating a country boy. Provide him with a fresh perspective and a willingness to learn about his life.
1. Laid-Back Fun
A guy who grew up in a rural area, possibly even on a farm, is used to a different social scene than a guy who grew up in a metropolitan area. Going out in the country requires more casual dress, and the venues are usually more laid-back, says English country girl Vittoria Pannizon. Have fun going on dates to parties, dances, and low-key bars with your guy, or just enjoy being outside. He'll probably have a great time showing you the natural beauty of the area where he lives.
2. Try New Things
If you’ve never been to a rodeo, square danced, or ridden a mechanical bull, don’t be shy. His family and friends might be skeptical of a girlfriend from an urban area, but you can show them that you’re cool by remaining open to new experiences. Embrace the dirt if he wants to take you on a walk in the fields or go horseback riding. Wear jeans and practical shoes for activities like these. The whole point of dating someone new is to take yourself out of your comfort zone and find out more about yourself.
3. Stay True to Yourself
If you’re trying new things, you don’t have to be the only one growing in the relationship. Trying to be someone you aren't is never a good idea. Be honest about your background, your hobbies, your political views and your likes and dislikes. If you find out that you have no common ground, then you might not be right for each other. Chances are that even if you’re different, you’ll still have some things in common. Invite him to do some of the things you enjoy in the city.
4. Address Touchy Subjects
There is a large economic divide between rural and urban areas in the United States, according to a recent Federal Reserve Bank of New York Staff Report. The report found, not surprisingly, that cities have more high-paying jobs than rural areas. If your family has more money than his does it’s better to address it than avoid it. Be honest about yourself and your background, and ask him to do the same. Try to understand where the other person is coming from so that you can learn from each other. Dan Croteau and Cate Woolner crossed their class differences by addressing them head-on with their families and each other, even going to group therapy to address the power imbalance in their relationship, according to a New York Times article on inter-class marriage. Dan came from a working-class background, while Cate was from old money, and the class differences are clear. Still, the couple has chosen to stick together through everything. If you and your country boy keep dating until it's serious, you can do the same.
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