Everyday stresses of schoolwork and extracurricular activities can wear down your teenage child. Introduce him to activities that will be help him cope with his stressful life. Affirmation games will teach him how to repeat positive phrases to himself even when life gets rough and build his self-esteem in the process.
1. Showing Gratitude
A teenager should practice gratitude for the things in life he may take for granted. Set a timer for five minutes. Between the two of you, see who can think of and write down the most things they are thankful for in the allotted time. Remind him that things to be thankful for can range from simple things like being able to enjoy a cool breeze or larger things like having food to eat. When the timer dings, the person who has the longest gratitude list is the winner.
2. Eliminating Negative Self-Talk
One of the ways a teenager can build her self-esteem is by describing herself in a positive light even when she feels negative about herself. She can practice using positive "I Am" statements such as "I am smart" or "I am a good person." Have her stand several feet away from you in a wide, open space. Throw a ball back and forth. Every time one of you catches the ball you will say a positive "I Am" statement about yourself as loud as you can. To make the game more active, bounce a ball between each other over a net.
3. Thinking Positively
A teenager should be advised that there are positive things he can focus on even in negative situations. Have your teen spend a day at the mall with a friend or older sibling and inform him that whatever happens over the course of the day he must remain positive. The friend will serve as a recorder. For example, if he goes into a store and is unable to purchase a clothing item, he would say, "I am thankful for the clothes I already have and will save money to purchase new clothing." If he succeeds without saying anything negative, reward him with a mall gift certificate.
4. Starting Off the Day
The right morning routine sets the course for a teenager's day. Teach him to speak positive things throughout his day and remind him that each day is a new start. Have him look in the mirror and think of any worries he has for the day, such as passing a test or winning a sports game. Instead of stating his worry, he must say the opposite. For example, he may think, "I'm too dumb to win the spelling bee today," but he can say, "I am prepared to win the spelling bee and I have a chance." For a different variation, have him write down affirmations and place them in a box. He can pick one daily to read in the mirror.
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