It is not uncommon for the fire in your relationship to settle down after marriage. Whether you miss the thrill of being pursued, you want your husband to take time away from work to pay attention to you or you just want to go out for a night on the town, getting your husband to take you on a date does not have to be a chore and can breathe new life into your marriage. In fact, according to the National Marriage Project hosted by the University of Virginia, the trend of community-supported date nights is on the rise across the country with the goal of strengthening the quality and overall happiness within marriages.
1. Be Vocal About Date Night
Many married couples fall into routines, sometimes out of sheer habit alone. If your married life has begun to follow a routine, you may only need to remind your husband of your desire to go on a date. Bring up a movie that you'd like to see, or mention the new club that has opened up downtown to your husband and remind him that you have not gone on a date recently. This subtle cue may prompt him to make plans with you this weekend.
2. Dress Up
How you present yourself may play a role in getting your husband to take you out more frequently. Get dressed up for no apparent reason, get your hair done and wear your husband's favorite perfume or accessories. In addition to sparking his interest in you, dressing up can give you a boost in self-confidence.
3. Make Dating Interesting to Him
Dating in marriage, like many other aspects of your relationship, should include an element of compromise. While you may desire to have a romantic dinner for two followed by a night of dancing, offer to take your husband to a ballgame or to his favorite sports bar to have hot wings and play trivia. Stepping outside of your comfort zone and engaging with your husband in his interests can make dating more interesting and appealing for both you and your husband and may result in him taking the initiative to take you out on more elaborate dates.
4. Show Appreciation
When your husband does take you out, make sure to let him know how much you enjoyed your time together. Whether you decide to show additional affection to your husband or simply thank him for a wonderful evening, being appreciative of your date night will reinforce the idea that taking you on dates is an important aspect of your marriage that should continue for the betterment of your relationship.
- National Marriage Project: The Date Night Opportunity
- Journal of Social and Personal Relationships: Impact of Interpersonal Traits and Gender-Role Compliance on Interpersonal Resource Exchange Among Dating and Engaged/Married Couples
- Journal of Social and Personal Relationships: Marital Ideals of the Newly-Married: A Longitudinal Analysis
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