You want to fulfill your teen's needs -- and even her wants -- whenever possible. However, giving into your teen's every demand can create a spoiled child, which manifests in a number of forms. Understanding common types of spoiling -- and how to avoid them -- are key when it comes to raising a well-balanced and responsible teenager.
Spoiled teens have a self-centered attitude, worried only about themselves and their interests, according to psychologist Carl Pickhardt at PsychologyToday.com. Your teen might be spoiled if he consistently puts his needs ahead of the needs of others. Teens might even wield some power over you -- a tactic they might have been using for years -- to gain what they want and emphasize the importance of their needs. An "I want" mindset plagues spoiled teens.
A variety of parenting tactics -- whether intentional or unintentional -- can contribute to raising a spoiled teenager. A focus on material goods, which might have started when your teen was a child, can create a spoiled child, according to DrPhil.com. If you display a self-centered attitude, your teen might follow suit. Even well-intentioned habits can create a spoiled teen. In an attempt to build a healthful relationship with your teen, you might give her what she wants to keep her happy. The unintentional result, of course, is a teen who becomes spoiled.
Spoiled teens display several personality traits that will reveal their attitude. Spoiled teens might disrespect you, ignoring your requests and instead following his own self interests. Your spoiled teen also might define his happiness by what material goods he has in his possession, according to the DrPhil.com. Spoiled teens might also watch as relationships with friends come and go because of their self-centered attitude.
Raising a spoiled teenager can have long-term consequences for the child as he matures. Without changes, a spoiled teen can become a spoiled adult, one who might struggle to maintain lasting relationships. According to Pickhardt at PsychologyToday.com, spoiled teens might grow up to be adults who experience an "erosion of caring." Ultimately, your spoiled teen's self-interests overpower relationships, resulting in only one long-term relationship in his life: the one between him and his needs. Thus, when you raise a spoiled teen, you risk creating an adult who struggles with relationships.