Smiling at your shy crush in the hallway is the first step to befriending him.

How to Get a Shy Guy You Like to Become Your Friend

by Kristen Moutria

If you like a shy guy and want to get to know him better, you probably do not know how to approach him without overwhelming him or making him nervous. Although you think he is special and worth getting to know, his shyness may keep him from being comfortable with a stranger approaching him. With time, he is bound to open up to you and become more comfortable in your presence. It is challenging yet rewarding to befriend a shy guy you have feelings for, especially if he ends up feeling the same way about you.

1. Use Subtle Signals

It is essential that when you begin the process of befriending the shy guy you like, you start slowly by using subtle signals to suggest you want to be friends. You may start by saying hello to him in the hallways at school or making eye contact and smiling. Making yourself seem welcoming without coming on too strong will show him that you are interested in getting to know him.

2. Communicate via Social Networking

One great way of getting to know your shy guy friend is by using social networking, as it will leave him feeling more in control than if he had to face you and make eye contact. You will eventually spend prolonged time with him in person, but in the meantime, texting, emailing or instant messaging is a great way to get to know one another. You may also ask him if he would like to talk on the phone after the two of you have communicated on the computer. This will make in-person communication much more effortless.

3. Linger After Class

If you have made the effort to chat with your guy online as well as to sit next to him in class, be deliberate about hanging out a little bit longer after class has finished. The little bits of conversation that take place then could be the beginning of your relationship. Furthermore, the fact that you are not coming across too strong will show him you respect his space. Eventually, you both will expect and look forward to your after-class chat and will become comfortable enough to arrange a time to talk outside of class.

4. Ask Him Out

After you have slowly forged a relationship with the shy guy you like, it is time to muster up the courage to ask him out on a real date. Keep in mind that you are not asking him to be your boyfriend, but only asking him to spend an afternoon or evening with you. If he has shown interest in your chats and has communicated enthusiastically with you over the Internet, a date should register to him as a step in the right direction.

About the Author

Kristen Moutria has a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from Evangel University. She is currently pursuing her Master of Arts in education from the University of Nebraska.

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