When your teen boy becomes smitten, he can feel like he is floating on a cloud, high above the ground. When this love affair comes to an end, he will likely suffer a jarring fall back to Earth. Through you can’t prevent this fall, you can lessen the impact, providing him with a metaphorical parachute to make his fall less life shattering and help him get over his brush with romance.
1 Give him some space. Though you want to be there for your heartbroken teen, smothering him with your affection isn’t the right choice, warns Gilda Carle, Ph.D. for Disney Family.com. Tell your teen that you are there for him, then back off and wait for him to come to you instead of planting yourself on his bed and trying to compel him to talk.
2 Listen supportively. You can help your teen most by providing a supportive shoulder for him. When your teen tries to talk about the breakup, listen. Allow him to describe the emotions that he is feeling. Give him your full attention, which will help make him feel important and let him know that you care, suggests KidsHealth.
3 Resist the urge to dismiss his feelings. Though your teen likely wasn’t going to marry this now-ex, he doesn’t need you to point that out. If you say things like, “It was just a teen romance,” or, “It wasn’t going to last, anyway,” you make your teen’s feelings seem unwarranted, warns Sarah Jordan, author of “The Teen Owner’s Manual,” in a February 2010 article in "The Seattle Times."
4 Avoid bashing your teen's new ex. Even if you weren’t a fan of the now-ex girlfriend, don’t use the breakup as an opportunity to point out all her faults, warns Sue Hubbard, M.D. in an article on the ABC News affiliate WFAA website. Your son likely still feels an attachment to this individual, so bad things you say about her can make him feel bad about himself.
5 Give your teen time to get over it. Dr. Mackenzie Brooks, a registered psychologist, reminds parents in an article on Canadian Family website that teens moving through a breakup need to go through the stages of grief. Allow your teen as much time as he needs. Even though you are likely eager to have your normally sunny teen back, rushing him will do more harm than good.
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