The transitional period from childhood to puberty and from puberty to adulthood is challenging for both parents and teenagers. During teenage years, the experiences faced in school, social settings and at home highlight the strengths and weaknesses of a child. In many circumstances, teenagers focus on their weaknesses and act out with rebellious actions or withdraw into their own world as a coping mechanism. It’s a maternal instinct to want the best for their children, and mothers can play a significant role in helping their teenage children overcome their weaknesses.
1. Identifying the Weakness
Identifying the root of a problem is the starter point of helping a teenager overcome his weaknesses. Examples of common weaknesses experienced by teenagers include low self-esteem, learning problems, awkwardness and relationship problems. Encourage your child not to focus on the negatives and instead pinpoint on his strengths. Some institutions such as Cedar Ridge Academy cater to troubled teens to identify their weakness and overcome them through group support and other activities.
Employing the services of a therapist to assist your teenage child to overcome his weakness is a useful strategy. The advice of an objective third party can help a teenager open up about the causes of his weakness and become more amiable to formulating solutions that would help him overcome them. Therapists who handle adolescent clients can help a teenager cope with the overwhelming emotions stemming from his weakness rather than letting his weaknesses define him.
3. Physical Activity
Encourage your child to engage in a physical activity she loves. A 2012 study by Bio-medical Central Public Health found that engaging in a physical activity has a positive effect on the mental health of teenagers -- especially girls. Improved moods help teenagers focus on the positive elements of their lives instead of their weaknesses. Physical activity also acts as a channel for frustrations associated with trying to overcome a weakness. Relaxing activities such as yoga and meditation help calm bad moods and open the mind up to discover new strengths.
It is common during teenage years for a child to relate more with friends instead of parents. However, it is important to monitor the kind of friends who associate with your child. Submitting to peer pressure can be a weakness of your child, such as when she can't make her own decisions and instead follows the ideas of her friends. This is a sign of low self-esteem. Encourage your child to surround herself with a group of friends who can help her overcome weaknesses.
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- BMC Public Health: Association Between Physical Activity and Academic Performance in Korean Adolescent Students
- Cedaridge: Helping Troubled Teens Understand their Own Weaknesses
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