Avoid temptation to avoid infidelity.

How to Avoid Cheating in a Marriage

by Kristen Moutria

If you are in a satisfying marriage relationship, imagine what would happen if you discovered your spouse is unfaithful. William Harley, psychologist and author of "His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage," says that affairs destroy families, and the innocent partner often does not know how to respond to the tragedy unfolding before her eyes. To prevent cheating from ever occurring in your marriage, make nurturing your relationship a priority, and avoid temptation at all costs.

Accept your differences; they may benefit both of you. Know that through your differences, you and your spouse can enhance each other's strengths and grow together, reports Frances Cohen Praver, clinical psychologist, relational psychoanalyst and author in "Psychology Today." Do not harbor a fear of abandonment, often the root of wanting to change your spouse, Praver goes on to say. Instead, accept him and bring out the best in him.

Refuse to spend any time alone with a member of the opposite sex. Even if you feel happy in your marriage and strong enough to resist temptation, spending alone time with a member of the opposite sex may lead to poor decisions. Stay away from anyone about whom you may have fantasized in particular, so that the temptation does not overwhelm and encourage you to give in to your feelings, suggests "Focus on the Family."

Avoid loving physical gestures. According to Janie Lacy, a licensed mental health counselor, a 20-second hug causes the release of oxytocin, a powerful bonding hormone. Even if the hug seems innocent, Lacy reports that once you cross this physical boundary or talk about a physical interaction, stopping becomes almost impossible. Refuse to participate in seemingly insignificant physical gestures to prevent yourself from giving into more significant actions.

Prioritize your relationship. Licensed social worker Katherine Robredo reports that if you allow your marriage to sink to the bottom of your priority list, it may lead to taking your spouse for granted. Instead, set aside daily connection time with your spouse, such as going on a walk together, watching a movie or having a lunch date.


  • Use creativity in finding ways to prevent cheating in your marriage. Cheating will only occur if one of the marital partners experiences dissatisfaction, so make having a good time, nurturing your relationship and loving with all your heart your priorities.


  • Emotional Infidelity: How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage and 10 Other Secrets to a Great Relationship; M. Gary Neuman

About the Author

Kristen Moutria has a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from Evangel University. She is currently pursuing her Master of Arts in education from the University of Nebraska.

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