Eliminate tears in the classroom.

How to Help Your Child to Stop Crying in School

by Barbie Carpenter

Whether it's her first day of kindergarten or she's a seasoned fifth grader, starting school every fall can bring some apprehension. Whether your child is nervous about meeting the teacher, shy about meeting new friends or simply afraid of being apart from you all day long, she might cry for a number of reasons. Identifying the cause of her fears and helping her confront them can lead to fewer tears and more smiles in the classroom.

Give your child a good night's sleep before school. A cranky child who isn't well-rested might be more likely to cry in the classroom. Stacie Bunning, a clinical psychologist writing for GreatSchools explains that a lack of sleep can lead to mood swings and behavior problems. An adequate night's sleep sets your child up for a successful day in the classroom.

Talk to your child about her concerns about school. Allow her to voice her concerns, whether she's worried about being apart from you or afraid she isn't going to make any friends. Simply talking about her concerns can help your child become more confident when she walks into the classroom.

Recognize your child's concerns and help to minimize them. If, for example, he thinks his teacher is mean and that's why he cries, talk to him about how his teacher is there to help him and support him while teaching him everything he needs to know. Your words of encouragement can help reduce concerns that might be leading to tears in the classroom.

Familiarize your child with the daily school routine. Talk to her the night before about what school drop-off will be like. Highlight any special activities going on at school that day to get her excited. Understanding the routine can create less apprehension -- and, as a result, fewer tears -- when she gets to school.

Talk to the school staff for reassurance. Your child's teacher can help reduce anxiety by welcoming the child into the classroom with a smile and talking to her about any of her concerns. If crying is a daily problem for your child, work with the school staff to reassure your child and give her the confidence she needs to excel at school.

About the Author

Barbie Carpenter worked as a technical writer and editor in the defense industry for six years. She also served as a newspaper feature page editor and nationally syndicated columnist for the Hearst Corp. Carpenter holds a Bachelor of Science in journalism from the University of Florida and a graduate certificate in professional writing from the University of Central Florida.

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