Chat with your child's teacher about your concerns.

How to Communicate With a Daycare Teacher

by Kay Ireland

When you're super busy and working under a hectic schedule, you might not have time to chit-chat about the weather when picking up your little one from daycare. But don't let a cramped schedule cause you to skip communication with your kid's daycare teacher altogether. Catching up, talking about concerns and making sure the teacher understands your child helps to build trust and take care of issues as soon as they come up.

Schedule appointments for regular progress reports and communication time. If you don't have time to hear about your child's activities, behavior and development when you go to pick her up, a regular monthly meeting might work better for you. There, you can discuss any concerns you have, catch up on reports and build a relationship with your daycare teacher on your own terms and without specific time constraints.

Ask your teacher what you can do at home for your child. Asking, "how is Susie doing?" is nice, but there's a good chance her daycare teacher will say, "Fine!" without specifics. Instead, asking how you can help at home can give you clues to how your child is really doing at daycare. For instance, her teacher might recommend you work on social time to get your child out of her shell, pointing to an issue with shyness at daycare.

Approach conflict with a light hand. It's easy to let your inner Mama Bear come out to play, especially if your child tells you she was hurt at school or you think she's being neglected. But being aggressive with conflict resolution puts the daycare teacher on the defensive, causing even more conflict. Instead, let the daycare teacher know you have a concern and then discuss ways you both can work to fix things, rather than playing the blame game.

Offer to volunteer at the daycare, if possible. By being in the class, you can observe your child and your child's teacher in action, have time to talk about your concerns and learn crucial information on how the group dynamics work. Armed with that information, you'll enjoy more effective communication and show your child's daycare teacher that you're an involved, informed parent.

Utilize different methods to communicate with your child's daycare teacher. While speaking in person is fine, if you run out of time or feel more comfortable using email, Facebook or even texting, ask the teacher for alternative methods of communication. That way, you can keep a constant stream of communication going that isn't contingent on how often you see your child's teacher face-to-face.


  • Assess your child's daycare teacher if she seems unwilling to communicate with you. It could be a red flag that she isn't a good fit for you and your child.

About the Author

Kay Ireland specializes in health, fitness and lifestyle topics. She is a support worker in the neonatal intensive care and antepartum units of her local hospital and recently became a certified group fitness instructor.

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