Cupid can strike at any age.

How to Date When You're Over 50 and Never Married

by Shellie Braeuner

Your heart is beating a little faster and you feel a little breathless, but your health is fine. It’s just one of the happy benefits of dating after 50. According to the CDC, the average life expectancy is around 78 years. So 50 still leaves many couples decades of life together. Even if you have never been married, it isn’t too late to get out there and date.

Decide what type of relationship you are looking for. You may want a romantic dating relationship or you may be looking for marriage. You may want an escort for business functions or a fun travel companion. Knowing what you’re looking for gives you a goal.

Break out of your comfort zone. Try new experiences. US News and World Report suggests that you look for activities that bring you together with new people and give you the chance to get to know them. Look into cooking or photography classes or religious retreats, or check out a new community organization.

Check into old friends from high school and college. Not everyone got married young and many find themselves single again in their 50s. Social networking and alumni websites make it easy to connect with old friends to find out who might be available.

Let friends and family know that you are looking for a relationship. Friends and family may not know that you want to find a date, but may be able to help once informed. Don’t forget to include the younger generation. Many teens have single parents for whom they would love to find a match.

Check out online dating. A wide range of online dating services cater to mature relationships. Fill out questionnaires honestly and use a flattering but truthful photograph. Update your social networking sites with flattering pictures as well. Many potential dates will search for you on the Internet. Meet online dates in a public place, not at your home.

Prepare before the first date. This doesn’t just mean dressing your best. Think about conversation starters or little questions to ask that can fill those awkward silent moments. Decide what you wish to share about your life. Don’t dwell on all the reasons you are still single; they don’t matter. At least, they don’t matter for the first date. By the same token, don’t ply your date with dozens of questions. Instead, keep things light and have fun.

About the Author

Based in Nashville, Shellie Braeuner has been writing articles since 1986 on topics including child rearing, entertainment, politics and home improvement. Her work has appeared in "The Tennessean" and "Borderlines" as well as a book from Simon & Schuster. Braeuner holds a Master of Education in developmental counseling from Vanderbilt University.

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