Your boyfriend's friends and sister will want to know if they have chemistry with you as well.

Dating a Man and Meeting His Friends & Sister

by Nina Edwards

So he wants to introduce you to his best friends. Not only that, he wants you to meet his sister, too! What does it mean? Dating someone who is family oriented and wants to bring you into his circle can have its advantages and disadvantages. If you both know this is going somewhere serious, meeting his family and friends is important. But it could also cause unnecessary stress in your relationship.

Who Popped the Question?

Were you the one who decided you wanted to meet his friends and family? If he was reluctant but agreed after you insisted, there may be a problem. It could be that he is not interested in a serious relationship with you, warns the article, “Ten Signs You’re Dating a Player,” on On the other hand, if he is the one who decided, this could be a sign that he wants things to get serious. If you feel the same way, go for it! If you feel things are moving too fast, speak up.

Take it Slow

Even if the two of you are on the same page about meeting his friends and family, don’t rush it. Meeting his inner circle too quickly can have detrimental effects on your relationship. For example, his friends and sister may be itching for him to get married and pick up that you aren’t dying to tie the knot just yet. They could use this information to discourage him from dating you. This could ultimately lead to problems in your relationship. He would be dating you without the support of his close circle of friends and family.

Be True to You

When you are going to meet your guy’s sister and friends for the first time, it can be a stressful event. Obviously, you will want to impress them on your first visit. Be careful not to overdo it. Don't be a different person in front of your boyfriend and his family. This can bring questions about the quality and stability of your relationship and may confuse your boyfriend and his sister and friends.

The Inner Circle Matters

Remember, this is your boyfriend's circle of important people. He most likely holds them dear. Stay on good terms with them by showing a genuine interest and getting to know them as individuals. If you are meeting everyone at once, try to make time to speak to each person individually in order to establish a connection. Your boyfriend will likely see your efforts and this can contribute to your relationship flourishing.

About the Author

Nina Edwards holds a doctorate in clinical psychology and has been writing about families and relationships since 2000. She has numerous publications in scholarly journals and often writes for relationship websites as well. Edwards is a university lecturer and practicing psychologist in New York City.

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