You can help your husband reduce the stress in his life.

How to De-Stress Your Husband

by Shelli Proffitt Howells

You have good reason to worry about your stressed-out husband. Although stress is a natural reaction to the demands of life, chronic stress can lead to serious health problems including anxiety, depression, digestive problems, heart disease, sleep issues, weight gain and memory impairment, according to By helping your husband reduce stress, you can give him peace of mind and perhaps a longer, healthier life with you.


Talking about your stress with a calm and balanced listener can make you feel better instantly, according to This confidant should be you. You are your husband's best friend, loudest cheerleader and biggest support. Let him pour out his troubles to you. Listen without judging or offering advice unless he specifically asks for it. Remind him of his talents and capabilities, and let him know you have faith in his ability to overcome his challenges. It is important for him to know that you believe in him.

Find a Hobby

Having a hobby provides stress relief in a more meaningful way than watching TV or surfing the Internet, according to Edward T. Creagan, M.D., an oncologist at the Mayo Clinic. It can boost creativity, increase self-esteem and provide a sense of accomplishment. Think of an activity that you can do with your husband, and invite him to join you. If you're an outdoorsy couple, try hiking, mountain biking, snorkeling or skiing. If you prefer working with your hands, take a woodworking or pottery class.


Regular participation in aerobic activity can decrease tension, elevate and stabilize mood, improve sleep and boost self-esteem, according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America. Buy your husband a gym membership, and encourage him to use it regularly. Invite him to take a walk with you after dinner, and bring the dog for a faster pace. Send him outside to play with the kids. Housework is exercise, too. Ask him to mow the lawn or sweep the kitchen while you finish dishes; he'll never suspect your ulterior motives.


Laughter has short-term and long-term benefits, according to A good laugh can stimulate your heart, lungs and muscles. It activates and then cools down your stress response and also stimulates circulation and aids muscle relaxation, which soothes tension. In addition, it improves your immune system, relieves pain, increases personal satisfaction and improves mood. Surprise your husband with a night out at a comedy club, or watch your favorite comedians on TV. Develop your own sense of humor to diffuse tense moments, but never make your husband the butt of your jokes.

About the Author

Based in Southern California, Shelli Proffitt Howells has written numerous articles about family life, marriage and parenting. She is a member of the American Night Writer's Association. She has a Bachelors of Science in zoology from Brigham Young University, which she has found surprisingly helpful while raising a large family.

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