Determine if he is interested in more

How to Determine if a Man Is Interested in More Than a Friendship

by Karina Cole

Dating can seem like a guessing game, but there are ways to take the guesswork out of dating and determine if your date sees you as more than a friend. With 55 percent of communication being expressed through body language, according to Albert Mehrabian and Susan Ferris, you may need a course in understanding that language.

Pay Attention to Body Language

Your date can show that he is interested by simply moving physically closer to you. Also, the more often your date makes eye contact with you and the longer he does it for can be a clear indication that he is interested in more. If he is moving closer to you while simultaneously making eye contact, you have the best of both worlds.

Introduce Him

If you happen to be in a situation where you need to introduce him to someone, ask him how he would like to be introduced. His answer might help you better understand how he sees your relationship. This may even lead to a conversation about the future of your relationship and if he really wants to be more than friends.

Spend Time Alone

Does he prefer activities with just the two of you or with a group of friends? Sometimes in the process of getting to know someone, we feel more comfortable asking others to join in on the fun—maybe going out with friends or on a double date. However, if he is really interested in getting to know you, he will suggest times where the two of you can spend time one on one.

Stop Guessing

Sometimes it helps to take the guessing out of the guessing game and simply ask. Guessing causes feelings of uncertainty and can lead you into the "friend zone" -- a situation where one individual in a friendship develops more intense feelings and wants to become "more than friends" with the other person.

Many individuals fall into the friend zone because they are concealing a fear. Often times, this fear is rejection. You may think, “If I am honest about how I feel, what if he doesn’t feel the same way?” It’s this very fear that has kept you guessing for so long. It’s not easy to be honest and put yourself out there; however, if you can muster up the courage to tell him that you’re interested in more than just a friendship, the answer to your question is soon to follow.

About the Author

Karina Cole is a New York-based counselor with a Master's in mental health counseling from Fordham University. Cole is skilled in helping individuals, couples and families work through personal and professional obstacles as well as other anxiety-related experiences. She holds a certificate in crisis counseling and a Bachelor’s in business and administration from the University of Massachusetts.

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