Offering words of encouragement is one way to be emotionally supportive.

How to Be Emotionally Supportive of a Guy You Like

by Kristen Moutria

It can be challenging to figure out what will make the guy you like smile. Perhaps you do not want to come across as overbearing, but you also need him to know that you care. There are things you can do to make a difference in his day and cause him to feel closer to you. He will most likely thank you for always being there for him. You may even find out that he has feelings for you.

Listen to Him

One of the most fundamental ways you can show emotional support to the guy you like is by listening to him. By letting him express his feelings to you, you are showing him that you care about his emotions and are not just interested in talking about yourself. Although listening is an important skill in developing relationships, many people are poor listeners, according to Herbert G. Lingren from the University of Nebraska-Lincoln Cooperative Extension. You can be the girl who stands out by genuinely taking in what he tells you.

Support His Dreams

If the guy you like dreams of becoming a writer, or has always wanted to act, be supportive of these desires. You may show up to a performance of the musical he is in or cheer him on at his basketball games. When he notices that you are always there, encouraging him to do what he loves most, he will recognize that you support the things that matter to him. He will know you care about him for who he is, and that you understand what brings him happiness.

Do Something Small

If your crush is having a bad day, go out of your way to do something small for him that will make him smile. Bringing him a cup of coffee from his favorite shop, for example, will brighten his day and show him that you care for him. Usually, the little things that you do for someone mean more in love, according to Aaron Ben-Zeév, professor of philosophy at the University of Haifa and author of "In the Name of Love: Romantic Ideology and its Victims." Although the two of you are not dating, you may be building the foundation for a future romantic relationship.

Speak Words of Encouragement

Brighten your guy friend's day with an encouraging word about who he is, what he does or what he is capable of. Let him know that you see so much potential in him, or that his kindness towards others amazes you. Even if you think he already knows these things, or that your words can't make a difference to him, make an effort to say something sweet. He will most likely remember what you said during another hard day and will then feel encouraged.

About the Author

Kristen Moutria has a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from Evangel University. She is currently pursuing her Master of Arts in education from the University of Nebraska.

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