Being yourself is important when meeting your boyfriend's mom.

Introducing Yourself to a Boyfriend's Mom

by Stacey Elkins

Your relationship with your boyfriend is going well and he wants you to meet his mom. Meeting her for the first time can be exciting, yet nerve-wracking. You want her to like you and accept you as her son’s girlfriend. While the initial meeting can be stressful, there are certain steps you can take to make the introduction go as smoothly as possible.

First Impression

Be on time, and be aware of your body language. The way you carry yourself speaks loudly. A firm handshake and an erect posture show confidence, according to the American Speech-Language-Hearing Association. Smile, maintain eye contact, and tell your boyfriend’s mom that it’s nice to meet her. According to the Association for Psychological Science, smiling can help alleviate stress. Be friendly, polite, and remember to say please and thank you.


Clothes, makeup and jewelry are all taken into consideration when people make an initial judgment. Make sure you dress appropriately, but comfortably, for the occasion. For example, casual attire is perfect for a barbecue, while more formal clothes are better suited for a nice dinner. Dress on the conservative side, and stay away from anything revealing. Express your individual style, but don’t go overboard.


When meeting someone for the first time, approach her with a sincere interest in getting to know her, according to the "Forbes" website. Do your research prior to meeting your boyfriend’s mom. For example, ask your boyfriend what his mom is passionate about, what she does in her free time and what her views are on specific topics. This information will help you find common ground to discuss. Ask her questions about herself, and be sure to listen carefully.


Don’t share too much personal information. Your boyfriend’s mom doesn’t need to know what you and your boyfriend do in private. Do not be overly affectionate in front of her. If you are going to drink, do so in moderation. Watch your language, and avoid touchy subjects such as religion and politics. If you’re invited over to the house for dinner, offer to help her prepare the meal, set the table or clean up. Bringing a small gift, such as a bottle of wine or a box of chocolates, would be a nice gesture. Ask your boyfriend what type of gift would be appropriate.

About the Author

Stacey Elkins is a writer based in Chicago. She earned a Bachelor of Arts in psychology from Southern Illinois University in Carbondale and a Masters in social work from the University of Illinois in Chicago, where she specialized in mental health.

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