Spending time with people is one way to make them a priority.

How to Show Someone They Are a Priority

by S. Grey

You come across many people in your lifetime, but they are not all going to have the same status. Certain people are going to be more important to you than others. These people don't have to be family; they could be friends, colleagues or clients. No matter the person, you can make them a priority and show them how important they are to you.

Show Up

Showing up for someone means more than being physically present. Attend functions that are important to them, but also offer emotional support when asked or when needed. There are different ways to be present in someone's life; by making someone a priority, you are telling them that you will be around in whatever way possible.

Active Listening

Active listening is effortful and shows people that you are invested in what they are saying. According to MindTools.com, there are five parts to active listening: pay attention, show that you're listening, provide feedback, defer judgment and respond appropriately. Reduce distractions when he speaks so that you can better listen. When you incorporate these elements into your listening, people around you feel important. You are also more likely to pick up on important information and other non-verbal cues when you are actively listening.

Invest Time

Prioritizing people means fitting them into places in your life above other things or people. Spending time with people shows them they are important enough to have reserved spots in your schedule. Opt to include important people in events you want to attend. Communicate regularly to show that you're taking time out of your day to talk to them specifically. Investing time in others can be a simple, but rewarding, endeavor that demonstrates how much you care for them.

Do Unto Others

When making others a priority, consider how you'd want to be treated. Imagine what it would look and feel like if others gave you an elevated spot in their lives. How you want to be treated may differ from others' perceptions, but it is a good place to start in learning how to make people feel important. Treating others with the respect you want demonstrates your care for them and it shows them that they are a priority in your life.

About the Author

S. Grey has a Master of Science in counseling psychology from the University of Central Arkansas. He is also pursuing a PhD and has a love for psychology, comic books and social justice. He has been published in a text on social psychology and regularly presents research at regional psychology conferences.

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